My husband, bless him, has read the entire Anne of Green Gables series. I love that he's a man of such widely varied tastes and interests.
I recently borrowed the Anne of Green Gables DVDs from the library. My husband and I have been watching them together. I hadn't seen them in years (long before having twins) and some things jumped out at me this time around, especially this line, which is my new favorite quote:
My twins have been mighty fractious lately,
and I'm terrible worn out.
I love my boys. Love. Them. But goodness, this is the story of my life. Especially on summer vacation. Especially now that they are at the age of bickering and nit-picking so many tiny, inconsequential details. And they are always right. ;)
Once I stopped to think about it, I realized this has been true for eight years now, since the days when I was hosting internal wrestling matches, and ultrasounds revealed them kicking each other or sitting on each other's heads.
So many people have said to me since pregnancy, "Oh, I always wanted twins!" "Twins must be so fun!" "Twins are so cute!" "They must just be the best of friends."
And you know, there are certainly adorable sides to it, e.g. tiny Alex and Will:
But I also like to keep things real, right here in 2BlueLand. So today it's time to acknowledge the fractious side of having twins. And the fact that each set of multiples has its own dynamic and relationship, some closer and more harmonious than others. As one young adult identical twin shared with me, "My least favorite part of being a twin is that everyone assumes we're best friends and honestly, we're just not. We're very different."
Alex and Will are very different, too. They've gone through phases of getting along better and phases of increased fighting. Like most sibling relationships, it's a love-hate relationship, but with multiples I think sometimes both the love and the hate can be more intense, what with all that togetherness and sometimes a strong sense of competition.
People often speak of twins as either super hard (as Anne does!) or super special (double blessing! what a bond!) and really, for me, the experience has been somewhere in the middle. Raising these two together has been harder--at times, seemingly impossible--and also more remarkable and heart-enlarging than I ever could have imagined.
After spilling my random thoughts, I leave you with some photos just from the first 18 months that pretty much sum up the breadth of my experience:
And really, that is life. One up, one down. Both up, both down. Learning, growing, exploring the world; sometimes together, sometimes at odds with each other.
Same faces and same dynamics; just bigger now and with more words.
So many words.
Making us laugh, making us crazy, making us rely on God for moment-by-moment sustaining grace.
Making us fall in love with them all over again, one day at a time.